Positive News readers share their tips on how to spread love this Valentine’s Day.

Feb 13, 2024 | News

We asked our readers how they celebrate Valentine’s Day. Readers shared their Valentine’s Day celebrations, from spreading love at ATMs and staring in the Mirror.

Romance is alive and kicking. Or at least, it’s alive and well in the Positive News Community, which has, as always, been a brilliant resource of insight ever since , without succumbing commercialism.

Several key themes emerged. Many people agreed that the best way into a lover’s stomach is to cook something special for them. Other people expressed their love with poems, songs, and homemade cards.

Valentine’s Day can be celebrated even if you’re not in a romantic relationship. Many single readers contacted us to share their stories of spreading love within their families, communities, and even themselves. All the responses were heartening. Although we couldn’t publish all the responses, thank you to those who wrote.

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Valentine’s Day: How to spread the love

Look in the mirror

“Love is not only from the outside but also from inside. It is available to anyone, whether they have a Valentine’s Day or not. Look into your eyes and tell yourself, “I love you”. Self-compassion and love of oneself help us to discover the love we have within. – Maya, Colchester.

Look outwards

“After making my husband’s favourite apple pie, i jumpstart my resolve of mindfully offering loving kindness to anyone in my path every day… until the next Valentine’s Day.”– Liz, Pennsylvania. US

Active listening

“We light a single candle and listen to each other in silence. We discuss topics such as: What do you like most about the other person. What are your feelings about our relationship? How would you like to be in the relationship? It’s very relating.” – Phil Cornwall, England

Many readers stressed the importance of self-love. Image: Elisa Photography

Simple words

“By being creative, write a poem, bake rose-scented cookies, draw a romantic postcard, or compose a song.”Iteke (The Netherlands)

“I start my day by saying: ‘Ayup, me duck. Still love you .’.”Viv, Derbyshire. England

Practising gratitude

“I’m single and I dislike consumerism, so Valentine’s Day is doubly alienating to me. Instead of focusing on what I might be missing, I’m making a collage with all the people I love. I’m making a collage of all the people I love (family, friends, etc.) to remind myself how much love I have been given.

A cup of tea

“A Cup of Tea in Bed” Michael, Scotland

Treasure hunt

“Make a special artistic card professing my love and then place clues throughout the house to lead to the gift which will be something such as a massage or special dinner. Or a trip to an amazing nature location for a picnic and hike.” – Karen, California.

The theme of expressing gratitude to loved ones was common. Image: Format ARW


“We’ll find a special dish to cook and spend time together in the kitchen.”– Dana, BC Canada

“We have two small children, which helps us avoid a lot cliches and commercialism. You learn to be creative when going on romantic dates becomes too much hassle. We both love to cook and decided last year to have a cook-off. The main dish is prepared by one of us, while the starter and dessert are prepared by the other. All the food is made from scratch. We set up the dining area with candles and jazz music. We loved it so much that we decided to make it a yearly tradition.” Jamie, UK


“Take a picnic and a bottle wine to the forest, with your lover.” Enjoy the gifts that you have with this person and nature.” – Sue from New Forest in England

Being charitable

“By giving a food parcel inside a red box to someone in need, and letting my Valentine (Know that the needy person) is his/her proxy.”– Michael, Johannesburg South Africa

“This is the first year I am donating money to a charity that supports victims of domestic violence.”– Aidan, England

Many readers expressed the desire to connect with each other and nature. Image: Masha

Doing nothing

“My wife and i are in agreement: We don’t have to show our love on a particular day of the year. It’s over-commercialised nonsense. We are perfectly capable of showing our love for each other without following the crowd. – Ian, England

Anonymous gifting

“I made six Valentine’s kits out of repurposed papers and packaged them in resealable bag. Each kit contained eight tiny Valentine cards in a variety of styles and sizes, with space to write a brief message. I left them in my local library’s Teen Room.” – Melanie from Oregon, US

Learning from each other

“I’m sending an e-book called

Valentine’s Day can be a family affair for many. Image: Lawrence Crayton


“Inspired the Craftivism movement, I and my girlfriend made felt hearts with small messages inviting people love everyone and left them around town in ATMs, libraries seats, and shops counters.”– Aidan, England

We make homemade cards to tell everyone in the household that we love them. We also use the occasion to be creative and have fun while baking Valentine’s themed cookies.” – Pamela from Worcestershire, England

“I plan to make paper hearts and write in them things I like about my husband.” “Free but meaningful.” – Rachel, Derby, England

Leaning into cliche

“There’s nothing wrong with the occasional cliche. Many things that became cliches were popular. It seems a shame not to go out for a nice dinner at our favourite local restaurants just because it’s popular.” – Rey from Leeds, England.

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